The death of a loved one is a time of sorrow and profound grief. It is also a time when our Christian faith in the resurrection of Christ can offer great comfort and allow us to experience grace in the midst of sadness. The prayerful rituals of the Catholic Church at the time of a death are meant to bring hope and consolation to family members and friends even as they commend the soul of the deceased person to the loving mercy of God.
Even more important than decisions surrounding your funeral are the decisions that may need to be made for your care at the end of life – before you die. There are many online resources to guide you in making “end of life” decisions about your living will, advance directives, and organ donation. Some resources are listed below:
If you would like to discuss any questions or concerns about making funeral arrangements in advance call or email our Associate Pastor, Fr. San Mai, SJ, at 509.313.7021 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
Disposition of the Body
Casket: The body of the deceased in a casket, present at a funeral is a common form of service in the Catholic Church
Cremation: Cremated remains can be present for a funeral mass, if desired by the deceased and/or family.
Scheduling and Fees
When may funerals take place at St. Aloysius? Most often, funerals take place on weekdays, usually in the morning or early afternoon. They may also be celebrated on Saturday mornings, if no wed- ding is scheduled. Funerals are scheduled in consultation with the parish funeral coordinator. As far as possible, the needs and wishes of the family are given first consideration, although the availability of the worship space and a priest must be taken into account.
What is the parish’s practice with regard to Vigil celebrations or Rosaries? Some families choose to have a vigil or rosary for the deceased the evening before the funeral liturgy. A vigil or a rosary may be celebrated at the funeral home or in the church.
Are there fees involved with a funeral at St Aloysius? The diocese has a suggested donation to the parish of $200. Non-parish families who request a particular priest will want to provide an appropriate stipend for the priest ($150). The fees for music are $150 each for the keyboardist and the cantor. Additional musicians would require an additional fee. These fees are ordinarily collected by the funeral home and paid by them to the parish. Any of these fees can be adjusted in cases of need.
Planning the Funeral Service
At St. Aloysius we encourage participation by the family and friends of the deceased. Some family members will meet with the parish funeral coordinator to plan the funeral. There are a variety of ways for people to participate: they can welcome people to the service at the doors of the church, serve as pall- bearers, place the funeral pall over the casket, and the crucifix and Book of the Gospels on the casket, at the beginning of the liturgy. Family members or friends also can proclaim the readings and the prayers of the faithful, present the gifts of bread and wine, serve as candle bearers and cross bearer and assist with distributing communion. A family member often gives a eulogy towards the end of the service. We encourage a eulogy given by a family member or friend at funeral services. The eulogy should be 5-10 minutes long (that’s about 500-1000 words). In the case of a funeral with cremated remains, a family member may carry the urn in procession to the sanctuary.
Are funerals celebrated for people who are not members of St. Aloysius Parish?
Yes. The custom of the Church is for the deceased to be buried from his or her own church. However, for a variety of reasons, people who are not parishioners desire to come to St. Al’s for funeral services, and we do our best to accommodate them.
A parish priest is the usual presider at a funeral service. St. Aloysius Parish welcomes other Jesuit priests and priests from other parishes to preside, preach and concelebrate funerals at our church.
Readings are chosen from the Bible by the family, in consultation with the pastor. Usually the first reading is from the Old Testament, the second reading (optional) is from the New Testament (Letters and Revelation) and the third reading is from the Gospels.
The music for the funeral is organized by the parish music director. The music director meets with the family to choose appropriate music for the service, provides the keyboard accompaniment and coordinates the cantor and any additional musicians.
Many families wish to have a reception immediately after the service while everyone is still gathered. In that case, the burial is usually scheduled for about 2-3 hours after the end of the funeral mass, or in some cases it is scheduled for a later day and time. Burial also can take place immediately following the funeral mass. In the case of cremation after the funeral, the burial will need to be scheduled for a later date when the cremated remains are available for inurnment.
The parish has several spaces that can be used for funeral receptions: O’Malley Hall accommodates about 100 people; the Antonian room has seating for 30-40; and Room A will also seat 30-40. Both O’Malley Hall and the Antonian Room are handicapped accessible. The parish has a funeral meal ministry for parishioners which provides salads, sandwiches, and desserts, and coffee and tea, in our spaces, without charge. Other arrangements can be made with local catering companies. There are also several other reception spaces available nearby; the pastor can provide contact information.
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